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How to make Open Relationships work when you are Young

SHAG spoke with Lateef and Ester about their open relationship - how they make it work and how they deal with feelings of jealousy.

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Antonina Ross

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Annye Ilieva

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Beatriz Salsinha

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Ellie Softley

How did you guys meet?

Ester: I had an interview for a job and he was working there. I didn't get the job.

Lateef

It's funny because when she came into the job, I was sort of 50/50 about whether to go over and speak to her, so it's funny that it turned into this but yeah I went over and spoke to her, gave her some tips and wished her luck and then we exchanged instagram details and then from there we were just talking really.

Ester

After a while it fizzled out. And then I unfollowed him cause his posts were dead. Then in January I saw him on tinder and I thought I would just match for bants and then he asked me on a date from there and we weren't dating we were just seeing each other.

Lateef

We just got closer and closer and then from there established from early what we both wanted. We knew that we wouldn't be afraid to entertain other people. Most people when they hear open they just think you shag as many people as you want and that's it but its a lot deeper than that.

Ester

I just thought to myself, I want to be able to have somebody - being in a relationship is nice, but I feel too young to be completely tied down and devoted. If opportunity comes, I want to be able to see somebody else. I feel like when you date and see different people, you learn more about yourself and you grow as a person.